All About The Family: The Wife (Pt 2)

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All About The Family: The Wife (Pt 2)

1 Corinthians 7:4-7
“The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment. For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.”

Yesterday we spoke about the initial groundwork for man and wife and gave a few tips as to why men and women are different. Obviously, physically but in the emotional sense with the wife’s (ESP) Emotional Sensory Perception. Today, we will talk about tools that a wife can employ to motivate her husband to give her attention, acts of service or anything else which she would like. This is not manipulation but motivation. Join us as we talk about the family. 

Disclaimer:

“The following statements aren’t all conclusive to all members of the feminine gender. Each individual wife is unique and has her own gifts in the confines of her marriage. The reader should NOT automatically assume that all women are all the same or display similar behaviors but use these statements as guide while understanding their own wife’s behavior and emotional pattern. Not all statements in this devotional are true for your wife or all women in the world. Please take all statements with a grain of salt unless discussed with your beloved spouse. Thus it has been spoken!”

I. The Secret Of Understanding The Woman

Women all over the world bring up the following complaints:

My husband never listens to what I tell him to do…

My husband never puts me as a priority…

My husband doesn’t seem to get it when I throw out simple clues…

My husband only cares about _________ …..

How can I get my husband to give me attention without leaving the G rated realm?

The first thing that you must know is that your man wants to be cherished as a man! What does this mean? Most women make the huge mistake of “telling” their men that they need attention which makes most feel like it’s a chore. Instead of learning their mate and interweaving their need for attention into their partner’s natural behavior. What is this and how does it get me my attention? 

  1. Brenda and Charles have been married for over 10 years with three children. Charles works 1 full time job and a part time job which enables his wife to be an at home mother/homeschool teacher to their children. Brenda’s day begins at about 7am while Charles’ day begins at 4am. She knows that her husband’s day ends at 9pm right before bedtime for the kids and that she only has a small amount of time with him before he has to goto bed. She makes bed time fun for the kids and her and hubby. She requested the Charles reads the whole family a bedtime story while the kids leans on mom and mom leans on dad. This is a favorite bonding time for Charles and the rest of the family. Now this happens every night, even if there is a game on TV that Charles wants to see. 

What did Brenda employ? Lets look at our scripture to understand what she did? 

1 Corinthians 7:4-7
“The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment. For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.”

Keeping our devotional reader friendly, we will show what this family currently does. 

A. “The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.”  

When we are married, I don’t have permission to be selfish without the expressed consent of my spouse. So if the wife is needing something from the husband, it’s his duty to accommodate and vice versa. When we have this spirit of sharing and openness there is an atmosphere of love and priority in the relationship. When one person feels like the other is open to sharing then the other will immediately reciprocate! When this atmosphere is not present, there will be a spirit of bitterness and jealousy. That’s why the bible warns: 

Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.”

Having the openness to share with your spouse will keep them interested in you and off of the television set when you really need them. However, try not to make a habit of taking your man from the big games because his attention will be half divided between you and the game. He will feel stuck! 

Challenge for today!

Ladies ask yourselves these questions: 

  1. Does my man love me enough to turn off the biggest game of the year and talk to me without becoming upset? 
  2. What am/aren’t I doing to make him feel this way?
  3. Would my man choose to be with his friends rather than me? Why or why not?
  4. Besides physical contact, what am I doing to motivate my husband to desire to be with me? 

Most wives only depend upon touch and intimacy in order to make their husbands happy but as we saw by the story earlier there is more than just being romantic. When the bible says defraud ye not, it’s talking about more than physical contact! What about kindness? How about peace in the home? What about understanding? Sometimes it’s not that important to try to understand everything that he does more than it is to understand that he’s doing it for you. Trying to understand the motivation behind his actions without excepting the action, is like trying to figure out where your husband got the engagement ring from before you say yes! It’s kinda hurtful and presumptuous! Let him live! Enjoy the moment. In so doing this, you will respect him while allowing him to appreciate you. In tomorrow’s devotional we will talk more about motivating your husband. Join us again as we address real life issues with biblical answers on Worship With Willie.

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