All About The Family: The Wife (Pt 1)


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All About The Family: The Wife (Pt 1)

1 Corinthians 7:3
“Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.”

This month on Worship With Willie, we would like to talk about the marriage, the home and the family. Why? Since the day that man was created, Satan has been trying to destroy what God hath joined together. Man may not tear assunder but the devil has done a very good job at destroying marriages. This week we will talk about the marriage as it relates to the wife’s side of the relationship. We want to provide families tools to overcome troubles and dangers that threaten their happiness. Join us as we talk about the wife’s side of the relationship.


“The following statements aren’t all conclusive to all members of the feminine gender. Each individual wife is unique and has her own gifts in the confines of her marriage. The reader should NOT automatically assume that all women are all the same or display similar behaviors but use these statements as guide while understanding their own wife’s behavior and emotional pattern. Not all statements in this devotional are true for your wife or all women in the world. Please take all statements with a grain of salt unless discussed with your beloved spouse. Thus it has been spoken!”

I. The Secret Of Understanding The Woman


Writing this statement almost seems cliche’ but it is a statement that has caused many men to stress out and goto frustration land. In our minds, we ponder, why is she so sensitive? We almost wish that she reacts and responds to things like we, as men, would respond but what a mistake that would be for us. Our wives are human beings with feelings and sensitivities like us but they are sometimes a bit more focused than ours. Her strength is her ability to use what I call her (ESP) Emotional Sensory Perception to engage her family when often we are unaware that there is an issue. How? Have you ever had a bad day and seen your mother or another woman that you’re close to and she right off the bat asked you; “What’s wrong?” The typical man response can be summed up in two statements:

  1. “Nothing”
  2. “Why do you ask me that?” “How did you know?”

God placed inside your wife this (ESP) as a tool to help her identify potential problems before they become huge issues. Knowing that she is NOT a man will help you to value her as a equal and as a partner in the relationship. 

In our text we see a few things here: 

1 Corinthians 7:3
“Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.”

  1. “Let the husband render” – Out of all of the texts in the bible that deal with the husband and the wife, 90% of them all begin with the husband initiating the contact for the reconciliation. This means that when there is an issue in the marriage the husband needs to be the one to take the first step. Waiting for the wife to take the first step when it’s a man’s job to do so is both immature and running from responsibility! Lord help us men to be the leader that our wives can depend on!
  2. “due benevolence:” – The term benevolence simply means “a disposition to do good or an act of kindness toward another.” So not only should the husband display leadership but he should also show his wife tender kindness in everything. This includes but is not limited to the following: 
    1. Thoughts 
    2. Talk
    3. Things 

The wife should have the feeling of absolute safety when communicating with her husband. She should not feel as if he will “Bite off her head” for talking or sharing her feelings. Note – ladies, your man is not a woman either. He cannot assume the role of your girlfriend when you need him to do so unless you both have previously agreed to this before. That’s why we read the last part of the verse as well. “and likewise also the wife unto the husband.”

Ladies, you have been given many tools to create peace in your home between you and your husband. However, please remember that you should NOT be nicer to any other man than your husband. All too often, some women, get an “attitude” with their husbands because he has forgotten something or does not do something the way in which they want. What if the ladies today would show a meek and tender spirit towards their families? What a shame it is for a wife to show a stranger more kindness than her own family especially her own husband?

Todays challenge:

Wives, show your husbands kindness! Give him grace when he messes up instead of turning into a nagging grouch. This simple act will make your husband love you more and open up to you. In tomorrow’s devotional we will discuss how you can make your husband turn off the game and communicate with you without asking, prompting or even begging. Join us again as we address real life issues with biblical answers on Worship With Willie. 


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