I’m Stuck!!! (Part 1)
“Now Israel loved Joseph more than all his children, because he was the son of his old age: and he made him a coat of many colours. And when his brethren saw that their father loved him more than all his brethren, they hated him, and could not speak peaceably unto him.”
Have you ever been stuck? I’m not talking about in traffic or even at those annoying traffic lights when other drivers can’t seem to figure it out. I’m talking about deep issues in your life that tend to make you question whether or not anyone loves or cares for you. If you’re like me, you will notice that problems will arise at the time when we least expect and at a very inconvenient time. Too many of these problems, at these inconvenient times, will make us feel trapped or even “STUCK”! Today will talk about what things can make us feel “stuck” and how they can bog us down and even influence our walk with God. Join us as we cover the topic “I’m Stuck!”
I. FAMILY TROUBLES
In our text we see that Joseph had a very close relationship with the Father Jacob but not so much with his 10 other brothers. The Father favored Joseph above all other children possibly because of his unblemished character and his exceptional integrity. This could have been the very thing that led Jacob to give Joseph a coat of many colors while the other brothers only received grief and heartache. That same application can be applied to our lives today. Sometimes the world will look at those that follow the Father and say “They think that they are better than us because the do that church thing.” This isn’t the case at all but one has to remember that the father gave Joseph life and not his brothers. We need to remember that God gave us life and not our distant family member. We are reminded to honor our fathers and our mothers. God used them as the vessels to give birth to us but He is our Creator.
Family issues are the most difficult issues to deal with because they are not only related to you but they are usually closer to you. They are people that you have to see and deal with more often than you would with strangers. Their opinions seem to be more valid and viable to other family members because of close relationship and sometimes compelling argument. So how do you deal with family troubles?
- Grace = Space – This basically means that you will have to deal with them with much more grace than you would with a stranger. Allow them to have their own opinions and only interject when:
- They ask you directly
- They say something obviously incorrect that could forever taint the faith another i.e. (God is a tree and His angels are the leaves on the trees)
- They are blatantly mocking Jesus or others in an open forum. (Rebuke before all)
- Praise In Public & Punish In Private – When we deal with the aforementioned family members, treat them the way that you would like to be treated. Since they aren’t mature enough to show discretion you need to be the bigger person. Publicly praise them for having the courage speak out like they do in a time where most people like to comment from behind a screen. Ask to speak to them privately and reprove them for the errors they they may have said. Once you reprove them, rebuild them in truth and encourage them to use their boldness and zeal for God and not against Him. For example: Your brother says “I don’t believe in church because there are a lot of hypocrites in there.” Your comment could be “You know there are a lot of inconsistent people in church and I appreciate that you have the courage to confront this issue.” Then ask to speak to them in private and say, “You know that comment was a strong comment, but not all church going people are hypocrites and I take that comment a little personally. If this is such a sore spot or you, then why don’t you show those people how its supposed to be done. You’re a very influential person and I believe that your willingness to be the example will encourage them to change. You can really influence the lives of hundreds of people if you really believe in what you have said. I am sure that you want to be part of the solution and not the problem as you said they are, hypocrites. Right?”
When we drive off headlong into an argument and fight against family, we will make it so that they hate us and ostracize us and our loved ones. The bible says that we should live peaceably with all people as set we can. This isn’t just those that are good to us but those that aren’t friendly to us. I so doing, you will honor Jesus Christ and not get stuck in family troubles. In tomorrow’s devotional, we will cover how to extent the right hand of fellowship to all people while keeping a close relationship with God yourself. Join us again as we address real lie issues with biblical answers on Worship With Willie.