Sitting In With Uncle Unfair & Aunt Apprehensive (Part 4)
2 Timothy 1:7
“For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.”
Have you ever had a situation where the conditions seemed as if it was un favorable or even plain out unfair? Uncle Unfair loves bringing this to your mind and causing you to verbalize “This is not fair”! In like manner this feeling of being ‘Unfair’ makes one adopt an apprehensive or cautious behavior in situations. This is the realm of Aunt Apprehensive. She loves to thrive in situations where one would normally step up or assume the risk. However, since the person has already experienced an Unfair action, they adopt an Apprehensive mindset and fear. This week, we will see how Uncle Unfair & Aunt Apprehensive change human behavior and Christian faith. Join us as we sin in with Uncle Unfair & Aunt Apprehensive.
How Do I Defeat Uncle Unfair & Aunt Apprehensive At Their Own Game?
Well we must first understand how they attack and then use their own games against them. Our guideline to do this is the bible! Let’s see how the bible teaches us how to fight.
II Corinthians 10:3-6
“For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war after the flesh: (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ; And having in a readiness to revenge all disobedience, when your obedience is fulfilled.”
That verse is the key to attack the forces of darkness without lifting a finger. Now back to Uncle Unfair and Aunt Apprehensive.
Fighting Fair With Uncle Unfair
Uncle Unfair likes to make you stop and think about your own personal feelings and emotions. Thus his name, UNFAIR. He makes you ask questions in your own mind. This will cause you to weigh the situation with a humanistic scale. When you do this, you will say “This in Unfair”. Ince this has happened, Uncle Unfair has won over your mind & emotions.
Here are a few tips to defeat Uncle Unfair before he even begins to speak to you:
1. Try to become aware of what your brain is doing
when you feel something is unfair or disrespectful of your rights. Catch yourself reacting in anger or frustration. Then take a breath before you say or do anything to make the situation worse.
2. Determine if your loss is real or not.
Is the rule you think was broken that important, really? Did the person who offended you take anything away from you other than a few minutes of your time? Was the action you resent a conscious offense or could the person have acted without realizing the impact on you? Did you lose your self-respect or respect from others? If the loss is not real or too small to bother with, choose to relax and let go. Then focus on something more interesting.
3. Sometimes it is better to choose to be healthy instead of right.
You decide where to put your most precious resource-your energy. Let go of what you cannot control. In the end, one of the greatest gifts you can give to yourself is to learn to quickly discern when it is time to let go from when it is time to react. There are times you need to stand up to what is unfair. There are times to move on. This takes practice. Don’t beat yourself up for having an emotional reaction. Your brain is doing what it is supposed to do-protect you. Instead, recognize when you are having an emotional reaction, take a breath and choose how you best want to respond.
Uncle Unfair can be defeated by:
- Catching his arrows before they penetrate the sensitive halls of your mind.
- Rejecting his sly and cunning infiltrators before they pass the sentries of your mind.
- Learn the right responses and default to them no matter how you feel at that time.
Aggressive Action With Aunt Apprehensive
Aunt Apprehensive likes to make you think about the events of the past that extinguish your positive action in the present. This ultimately makes you regret your lack of action in the future as you reflect back into the past. In short, she makes you fear repercussions in the present because of a past admonition.
Here’s the best way to respond to her attacks:
- Reduce your fear of failure by thoroughly preparing and practicing.
Much of the fear you experience is a fear of failure. Adequate and even extra preparation will lessen the possibility of failure and the apprehension. When I am nervous or apprehensive about a subject or something in life I remember these three things:
A. They can’t take away my birthday (AKA They can’t unbirth me) LOL
B. They can’t kill God (They may have power but not that kind of power) AMEN
C. They can’t remove me from God’s protection (They have no power but what God allows them to have and they can’t do no more than He allows) Hallelujah!!!!
So whatever happens, I’m a success because I get to live another day glorify MY GOD!!!
2. Reduce your anxiety by moving about and breathing deeply.
Aunt Apprehensive wants to paralyze you with fear and keep you from going forward for God. You must aggressively force yourself to move forward little by little. Moving 5 feet is better than standing still. Additionally, breathing relaxes you more than not breathing deeply.
3. Reduce your fear by focusing on what it is that you seek to accomplish instead of you think it will fail.
People often think about how something will not go well instead of how it can go well. We often think this way because we don’t want to be let down or disappointed. We figure that it is easier to expect the negative and be surprised by the positive. This is a total lack of faith!
Today, we have learned a few tips and tricks in order to defeat Uncle Unfair & Aunt Apprehensive. They will NOT give up easily but by being steadfast and un-moveable we will see God move His hand for us. In our next series, we will talk about the Five Friends Of Mr. Depression and how to avoid their influence. Join us again as we address real life issues with biblical answers on Worship With Willie.