Sitting In With Uncle Unfair & Aunt Apprehensive (Part 1)
2 Timothy 1:7
“For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.”
Have you ever had a situation where the conditions seemed as if it was un favorable or even plain out unfair? Uncle Unfair loves bringing this to your mind and causing you to verbalize “This is not fair”! In like manner this feeling of being ‘Unfair’ makes one adopt an apprehensive or cautious behavior in situations. This is the realm of Aunt Apprehensive. She loves to thrive in situations where one would normally step up or assume the risk. However, since the person has already experienced an Unfair action, they adopt an Apprehensive mindset and fear. This week, we will see how Uncle Unfair & Aunt Apprehensive change human behavior and Christian faith. Join us as we sin in with Uncle Unfair & Aunt Apprehensive.
Today we have the opportunity to learn about Uncle Unfair and what he does to the human race. There are a few things that he is responsible for and that cause us to succumb to his voice.
Uncle Unfair wants us to believe that God or others are unreasonable in their responses to us. The term unreasonable simply means that “I am not getting what someone else is getting that lives, believes, acts or is in the same condition that I am in.” When we see things in this light we are being illuminated by the brightness of Uncle Unfair’s hate lamp. It shines a red light of unfairness toward us and makes us believe that the condition or situation is not equal. The bible warns us in 1 Corinthians 10:23 “All things are lawful for me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but all things edify not.” Just because something is available for you to get, that doesn’t mean that it’s for you to get.
Oftentimes it is easier for us to see through a small negative lens than for us to see through a large positive one. Ever since the fall of man in the garden, we have been programmed to default to a negative position and mindset. When a situation occurs usually our first thought is to think the worst possible scenario. Right? Say Amen!! I’m not saying that we should put on a false front and be an imposter and force a smile on our faces when we really don’t feel that way. Most Christians do this in an attempt to convince the lost world that things are great between them and God. If we, Christians, are really honest it sometimes doesn’t workout like this nor is everything okay. I think that it would do good to tell the world that things aren’t like I want them but God has been better to me than I deserve. This will give them a real picture instead of a forgery. King David dealt with this same thing in 1 Samuel 30:6 “And David was greatly distressed; for the people spake of stoning him, because the soul of all the people was grieved, every man for his sons and for his daughters: but David encouraged himself in the Lord his God.” When your bad day comes, and it will, what will you do? Will you stop the train and have pity party or will follow the admonition in 2 Timothy 2:3 “Thou therefore endure hardness, as a good soldier of Jesus Christ”?
Uncle Unfair’s best work is to make you less effective in situations that you have mentally labelled unfair. Additionally, he attacks you emotional man and makes you begin to not like the situation. Since you hate the situation, you will immediately begin to seek a face to place the blame upon. For instance, if you receive a speeding ticket you don’t get angry at the ticket book nor the ticket, you get mad at the officer which gave the ticket. In today’s vernacular we say “Don’t shoot the messenger” but that’s what we do. Our ability to function dramatically decreases when Uncle Unfair comes on the scene. Jesus said this in John 9:4
“I must work the works of him that sent me, while it is day: the night cometh, when no man can work.” We have a job to do; but we can’t complete our work when we secretly hold a grudge against another person.
Things aren’t always what they seem! Uncle Unfair uses illusions to trick us into believing what it is that we want to see when it is not really there. I once heard a story about a man in a desert that was very low on water and food. He stated that he reasoned within himself that he would do anything for water. When the heat came on he said that he saw water in the horizon. He began to run after it only to discover his personal desire overwhelmed his common sense and logic. He had learned about the dangers of mirages but because he really wanted water, he set what he knew to be the truth aside for what he thought could satisfy. The bible warns us in Proverbs 23:23 “Buy the truth, and sell it not; also wisdom, and instruction, and understanding.” This means that we should gain knowledge, wisdom and instruction and not disregard it for something that you think will satisfy but will only let you down.
All cases where a person becomes jealous or deems something unfair, they internalize this emotion. I liken this to germs on dirty surface. As long as you recognize that the surface is dirty and do the things available to keep yourself clean you will be fine. However, if you touch the surface without any regard to getting contaminated then you will be invaded and infested with these harmful parasites. This is the same thing that sin does as well. If you take no care in what it is that touches your mind, you will eventually succumb to an infection. However, if you do touch this issues and then go clean yourselves then you have escaped. All too often, we will take no regard on the things that we meditate on upon. Someone will get a promotion and we will think about it so much that we will begin to question “Why didn’t I get a promotion” or “I deserve that more than they do”. In every case we internalize. The bible says that Matthew 12:34 “O generation of vipers, how can ye, being evil, speak good things? for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh.” The things that you allow inside will eventually erupt on the outside. The only thing that will prevent this is from keeping them from entering int the first place. 2 Corinthians 10:5
“Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;”.
In our world, most people live in a bubble of virtual reality. This means that everyone has their own virtual world. It is a world that they control. They control the traffic, the weather, the people’s actions and even the prices of consumable goods. This virtual world tends to run smoothly until something, in the real world, interrupts this world’s natural flow and order. Then the tornado of adversity comes and begins to destroy everything. This virtual tornado cannot be stopped until it runs it’s course. After it destroyed everything, then the clean up can begin. I find that Uncle Unfair pushes people to seed this tornado with their selfish thoughts until it runs it’s course. For example:
Your friends goto a concert or movie and don’t invite you. Let the attack begin:
Some people will instantly confront their friends with a very harsh tone because this event started intimate weather in their play land. So they want to punish the person responsible for disrupting their utopia. Others will experience a bitter subzero chill in the air because they will give their friends the cold shoulder. “They didn’t include me so I’m going to exclude them.” Either way you see it, reality isn’t reality to them because they are in their own world. This is a huge issue; because they have a set mode of actions that should happen so when it doesn’t they automatically verbalize “This Isn’t Fair”.
Uncle Unfair is a person that causes strange events to happen but he makes us go into a virtual world that allows us to attack others without even knowing the situation. In tomorrow’s devotional we will talk about Aunt Apprehensive. Join us again as we address real life issues with biblical answers on Worship With Willie.