Living With Mrs. Misery (Part 5)
“Remove far from me vanity and lies: give me neither poverty nor riches; feed me with food convenient for me: Lest I be full, and deny thee, and say, Who is the Lord? or lest I be poor, and steal, and take the name of my God in vain.“
Many people have and currently do live with a house guest that calls herself Mrs. Misery. Mrs. Misery, often attaches herself to couples, in their homes, which makes her sometimes a longterm guest and even part of the family. When families invite Mrs. Misery into their homes, they are initially impressed by her warm and bubbly exterior but overtime Mrs. Misery changes into a stranger that they are unable to rid themselves. Mrs. Misery comes across as an advisor but quickly becomes adversary overtime to the family. She tricks the family into believing and accepting the following thoughts:
Day 1 Be afraid, be very afraid, of economic loss Practice sustained boredom Give yourself a negative identity Day 2 Pick fights Attribute bad intentions Whatever you do, do it only for personal gain Day 3 Avoid gratitude Always be alert and in a state of anxiety Blame other people Day 4 Don’t enjoy life’s pleasures Ruminate Glorify or vilify the past
- Find a romantic partner to reform
- Be critical
- Leave God Out Of Everything
This week, we will learn how many people are burdened which misery and how they can overcome. Join us this week as we are Living With Mrs. Misery!
Mrs. Misery deals with people in different ways but no matter how she deals with people, there is one common thing that stands out; the absence of God’s Word and His presence. Mrs. Misery does all that she can to keep all those, to whom she has whispered, from listening to God or following His Word. Today we will see how she does her work today.
- Be Critical
We see those that often spend time with Mrs. Misery have a critical spirit. This follows the old adage of “Misery Loves Company” comes to mind. Why? Because Mrs. Misery doesn’t care for the happiness of others except if it deals with making her or her friend happy. To put this in an easy to understand scenario read these words below.
A husband and a wife have been in a doing good for a few days during a crisis. However, one day, the husband sees another couple being kind and nice to each, well more than what he has received and confronts the wife. In her defense she explains “Well, that may be for them, but that is not us.” The husband feels as if he isn’t or hasn’t been heard and validated by his wife. He now seeks a to be heard! Mrs. Misery is a great speaker but an equally good listener. She validates his words and feelings and makes this recommendation: “If she won’t listen to you then why should you even listen to her?” Now, the husband adopts a critical spirit against the wife because he hasn’t received what he needs from his partner while denying her what she needs. Now they both inadvertently begin to “nit-pick” each other and become overly critical with the other. They criticize each other’s weaknesses in an attempt to break them into submission so that they can prove that they are the stronger and thus right person. Mrs. Misery tells them “Do anything that you can to prove that you are right, even if it means that you hurt them in this process.”
2. Find A Romantic Partner To Reform
Sometimes Mrs. Misery informs people that they need to leave their current relationship, because things aren’t right. One they leave one relationship they instantly begin a series relationship with another in an attempt to fill the missing void that they other could not. Once in this new relationship, they try to fix the insecurities and faults of the other person. Mrs. Misery lets them know “this new person has issues and since they want to be with you, they need to change themselves for you.” This is simply selfishness and could result in a string of failed relationships.
3. Leave God Out Of Everything
Mrs. Misery likes to remind people of how they have made their own ways in life and how God wasn’t there to help them when they needed it. She makes statements like:
“If God was so good, then why did this happen?”
“If the God you serve loves you, then how can He allow this to happen?”
“Since you are giving to God, why doesn’t He reward you with good instead of bad?
This usually prompts people to take critical look at God and self rely upon what they can touch, see and feel instead of depending upon faith? This isn’t blind hope! The bible says faith has substance! Notice what it says in
“Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.”
Faith has substance and there is evidence to this thing we call faith. Too often Mrs. Misery reminds us that faith is blind hope. My definition of substance and evidence both deal with things that you can see, touch and feel. However, Mrs. Misery’s ministry deals with making people rely upon themselves while seeking to hurt others. In next week’s devotional we will talk about the children of Mr. Depression and Mrs. Misery “Sir Worry and Lady Doubt”. Join us again as we address real life issues with biblical answers on Worship With Willie.