Living With Mrs. Misery (Part 3)
“Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you.”
Many people have and currently do live with a house guest that calls herself Mrs. Misery. Mrs. Misery, often attaches herself to couples, in their homes, which makes her sometimes a longterm guest and even part of the family. When families invite Mrs. Misery into their homes, they are initially impressed by her warm and bubbly exterior but overtime Mrs. Misery changes into a stranger that they are unable to rid themselves. Mrs. Misery comes across as an advisor but quickly becomes adversary overtime to the family. She tricks the family into believing and accepting the following thoughts:
Day 1 Be afraid, be very afraid, of economic loss Practice sustained boredom Give yourself a negative identity Day 2 Pick fights Attribute bad intentions Whatever you do, do it only for personal gain
- Avoid gratitude
- Always be alert and in a state of anxiety
- Blame other people
- Don’t enjoy life’s pleasures
- Glorify or vilify the past
- Find a romantic partner to reform
- Be critical
- Leave God Out Of Everything
This week, we will learn how many people are burdened which misery and how they can overcome. Join us this week as we are Living With Mrs. Misery!
“Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you.” When we consider Mrs. Misery today on Day 3, we look at the three things that she brings out of people. She brings out traits that many already have but because of stress, drama and doubt most people allow these “incarcerated” feelings and emotions to escape from their cells and have free reign to disturb and destroy. Today we will see some of these things and see how they disturb our focus and destroy our faith and that of others as well.
- Avoid Gratitude
People will begin to avoid being kind and refuse to show gratitude for things in their lives because they feel as if they haven’t been given a fair deal in life. For instance, a person my manage others at their job and their boss does not show appreciation for their efforts and avoids showing gratitude for their selfless service. In turn this victim is faced with a decision whether or not to reciprocate this behavior to their employees. Whatever decision they tend to make will be one that affects them for good or bad.
A. If they treat their staff the same way that they have been treated, they will experience the same behavior, from their staff, that they experience from their superior. There will be tension and strife in the office!
B. If they treat their staff in the way that the bible says in Proverbs 3:27 “Withhold not good from them to whom it is due, when it is in the power of thine hand to do it.” They will be respected and their staff will trust them while they have no respect for their superior but have a feeling of fulfillment in their jobs. This will seem as an act of worship in the workplace.
I have also learned that those that refuse to show gratitude tend to be unhappy and unapproachable. They tend to be a bit more self-centered and care less about others unless it personally benefits them. Mrs. Misery tells them “you don’t have to be nice to others because no was nice to you”. The same thing happens in marriages as well. They husband will come home to a nice clean house, well dressed & well mannered children and a beautiful and loving wife but his mind and eyes will seek the things that went wrong. Instead of seeing the wall that your youngest children drew on with a crayon, see that they wrote your name and called you their hero. Saying thank you and showing kindness doesn’t cost anything, its an investment.
2. Always Be Alert And In A State Of Anxiety
If you have ever been in the presence of a person that shows this type of behavior, you will refer to them as a spaz. This is the type of person that shows outward emotional and physical manifestations of anxiety. In other words, when things are outside of what they refer to as “The Norm” they will freak out and panic. Why do they do this? Mrs. Misery whispers to them that “It’s okay to outwardly explode and not maintain composure because you are only human and most reasonable people do this.” Well, that’s not what the bible says in Romans 5:1 “Therefore being justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ:” This tells me that I am to have peace which is different from anxiety.
God whispers and tells people to trust Him and not try to be God but only listen for Him and you won’t have anxiety. Children don’t worry about bills in the house usually, unless the parents tell them that there is a problem. When the parents handle it all and keep the children sheltered from this they will trust the parents. God has everything under His control. Do you know that every time people try to solve an issue themselves they stress out? Let God do His work!
3. Blame Other People
Most people will blame others because something hasn’t gone according to their plans. Because they have been used to getting their way they fault others because they don’t want to assume the blame. Instead of accepting the fault for mistakes, they point fingers at others. Mrs. Misery tells them “if you point at someone else, then you take the heat off of you and put it on them.” This is evil, immature and sinful.
Today in your journey with God; notice that ungratefulness results in not blaming others for your unhappiness and a state of constant worry. When we look to Jesus and admit when we are wrong, we will experience the fullness of God’s power in our lives. Never forget that God loves you and Mrs. Misery loves hates your relationship with Him. In tomorrow’s devotional we will cover bringing up the past as a way to cope with the future. Join us again as we address real life issues with biblical answers on Worship With Willie.