Living With Mrs. Misery (Part 2)
“Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you.”
Many people have and currently do live with a house guest that calls herself Mrs. Misery. Mrs. Misery, often attaches herself to couples, in their homes, which makes her sometimes a longterm guest and even part of the family. When families invite Mrs. Misery into their homes, they are initially impressed by her warm and bubbly exterior but overtime Mrs. Misery changes into a stranger that they are unable to rid themselves. Mrs. Misery comes across as an advisor but quickly becomes adversary overtime to the family. She tricks the family into believing and accepting the following thoughts:
Day 1 Be afraid, be very afraid, of economic loss Practice sustained boredom Give yourself a negative identity
- Pick fights
- Attribute bad intentions
- Whatever you do, do it only for personal gain
- Avoid gratitude
- Always be alert and in a state of anxiety
- Blame other people
- Don’t enjoy life’s pleasures
- Glorify or vilify the past
- Find a romantic partner to reform
- Be critical
- Leave God Out Of Everything
This week, we will learn how many people are burdened which misery and how they can overcome. Join us this week as we are Living With Mrs. Misery!
“Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.” When looking at this text a few things jump out at me. Notice how this verse begins! “Finally”. This word means the ending point or the final idea or thing, the ending. It would stand to reason that since this is the final point, in this text, that we should look back to the afore points. However, the most sincere words are a man’s last words. Let’s look at day two with Mrs. Misery.
- Pick Fights
Yesterday we learned that Mrs. Misery loves to pit person against person especially those that have insecurities. Mrs. Misery knows that insecurities cause more fights than dangerous or disrespectful behavior. She uses this as fodder for fights between those in intimate relationships. Why does she do this? No one really knows; perhaps she enjoys drama and strife. Whatever the case, she makes one or more parties attack the other and thus begins the fight. Here is a sample of what Mrs. Misery says and encourages other to say to their spouses:
Wife goes out and purchases clothing for the family without informing the husband. The wife reasons that the children needs these clothes because their clothes are no longer able too be worn properly. She leaves them out for the husband to see upon his arrival home. Husband walks in and sees a large pile of clothing and asks questions. It is not long before he notices the price tags still attached and the original sales prices. He does the figures and notices that the price on the tags are much more than the family had in the bank account. Since the husband is insecure about money and financial security he instantly begins to experience worry and anxiety. In this state Mrs. Misery whispers “Did she just overdraft the account for these ugly clothes? Oh no she didn’t, she doesn’t care about what is important to you. What are you going to do about it?” The husband, ignorantly makes a bold accusation about the wife not being financially responsible. Well, the wife instantly becomes defensive since she got these clothes on clearance and spent a 1/4 of the amount that the husband thought she spent. Now Mrs. Misery whispers to the wife “See, I told you that he wouldn’t appreciate your diligence and desire to be a good stewart of the family’s money. Since he doesn’t love you, you shouldn’t respect him! Stop cooking, cleaning and meeting his needs since he can’t even make you feel important. You need to argue with him every chance you get, until he shows that he loves you.” So now, husband and wife are picking fight at the least little thing in the house because they are listening to Mrs. Misery. God no longer controls the home, Mrs. Misery runs the home. Are you constantly bickering with your spouse over small trivial things in your home? If you are, then I would put in spiritual earphones and listen for the voice of God. Mrs. Misery makes people pick fights for now reason. Here’s how to tell if Mrs. Misery is making you pick fights:
- You are very upset when you argue with your spouse but this doesn’t carry over to anyone else.
- When your spouse walks away or leaves the are, you forget what it was that you have been fighting about in the first place.
- Your anger re-ignites when your see, hear or even smell your partner or the one that has made you upset.
2. Attribute Bad Intentions
Since Mr. Misery loves to create drama between families, she has no issue having people harbor bad feelings against others. When we harbor bad feelings this will lead to seeing them in a light of bad intentions. Simply put Mrs. Misery’s words will have us thinking and responding in a strong way.
So harboring bad intentions can begin as simply as sitting at work and premeditating arguments before you have them. Mrs. Misery will walk you through and argument so that you can be prepared and equipped to defend yourself during that time. I would caution you about this and remind you about this scripture:
“And when they bring you unto the synagogues, and unto magistrates, and powers, take ye no thought how or what thing ye shall answer, or what ye shall say: For the Holy Ghost shall teach you in the same hour what ye ought to say.”
Seeking to win a fight before it starts, after you have started so that you can win it is just plain out sinful and makes you a bully!
3. Whatever You Do, Do It Only For Personal Gain
I know of many fights that have began because people refuse to let go of their selfish pride. For instance the husband does something that benefits only him and the other members of the family look and see his selfishness and the wife confronts him. Then he begins to violently defend himself. Instead of eating a slice of humble pie, he decides to drink his own kool-ade and keep his pride. In his mind, he is rights, no matter if God comes down and tells him that he is wrong. In our lives, we will do things that benefit only ourselves then become upset when someone confronts us about it don’t we?
This behavior will definitely cause fights and bickering which will lead to and awkward environment in the home. It will make you NOT want to be near that other person and eventually treat them like an enemy. The only way to overcome this sinful and prideful behavior is to think on those things that are lovely, pure, honest, just, and of a good report. Thinking about God and how good He has been to you will help you from becoming critical to those to whom you have fought in the past. Jesus can overwhelm Mrs. Misery but if we don’t listen to Jesus then we automatically choose Mrs. Misery. In tomorrow’s devotional we will talk about the events on Day 3. Join us again as we address real life issues with biblical answers on Worship With Willie.