Living With Mrs. Misery (Part 1)
“Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you.”
Many people have and currently do live with a house guest that calls herself Mrs. Misery. Mrs. Misery, often attaches herself to couples, in their homes, which makes her sometimes a longterm guest and even part of the family. When families invite Mrs. Misery into their homes, they are initially impressed by her warm and bubbly exterior but overtime Mrs. Misery changes into a stranger that they are unable to rid themselves. Mrs. Misery comes across as an advisor but quickly becomes adversary overtime to the family. She tricks the family into believing and accepting the following thoughts:
- Be afraid, be very afraid, of economic loss
- Practice sustained boredom
- Give yourself a negative identity
- Pick fights
- Attribute bad intentions
- Whatever you do, do it only for personal gain
- Avoid gratitude
- Always be alert and in a state of anxiety
- Blame other people
- Don’t enjoy life’s pleasures
- Glorify or vilify the past
- Find a romantic partner to reform
- Be critical
- Leave God Out Of Everything
This week, we will learn how many people are burdened which misery and how they can overcome. Join us this week as we are Living With Mrs. Misery!
“Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.” Why do we need to be careful? In our text we read that the bible tells us to be careful for nothing. So the question remains, why is this verse in the bible? What does it mean? If we really look into this verse it could be interpreted as “Don’t worry about anything, but in prayer and in praying for others while praising God present these things to God.” So what do people worry about? In the first day we will see that people mostly worry about:
- Be afraid, be very afraid, of economic loss
The bible tells us in Mark 10:17-26
“And when he was gone forth into the way, there came one running, and kneeled to him, and asked him, Good Master, what shall I do that I may inherit eternal life? And Jesus said unto him, Why callest thou me good? there is none good but one, that is, God. Thou knowest the commandments, Do not commit adultery, Do not kill, Do not steal, Do not bear false witness, Defraud not, Honour thy father and mother. And he answered and said unto him, Master, all these have I observed from my youth. Then Jesus beholding him loved him, and said unto him, One thing thou lackest: go thy way, sell whatsoever thou hast, and give to the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven: and come, take up the cross, and follow me. And he was sad at that saying, and went away grieved: for he had great possessions. And Jesus looked round about, and saith unto his disciples, How hardly shall they that have riches enter into the kingdom of God! And the disciples were astonished at his words. But Jesus answereth again, and saith unto them, Children, how hard is it for them that trust in riches to enter into the kingdom of God! It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle, than for a rich man to enter into the kingdom of God.”
Too often we are very concerned about riches, which we should be, but when we fear economic with a paralytic fear we do harm ourselves. Jesus reminded us that people tend to put their economic well being pretty high, even more important that God! Mrs. Misery will tell us that the slightest little thing will threaten our economic security. Once we buy into this theory, we live in a constant state of worry and this unresolved worry evolves into a state of Misery. Misery means great mental or emotional distress and extreme unhappiness. This emotional state is consistent with someone that would be in a financial emergency or distress. Mrs. Misery likes making people feel as if they need to pinch pennies and save when God is instructing you to give.
2. Practice sustained boredom
In addition to pinching pennies, people tend to withdraw and live a life that is void of connections, fun and meaningful memories. Mrs. Misery will tell the family something close to the following:
“You know your finances are really low, so therefore you shouldn’t spend any non-essential expenses. Why should you spend money that you don’t have to when you can’t make your financial obligations? If you can’t pay this bill, then you you shouldn’t give money to the church, stay home and do nothing fun nor should you do anything to help others less fortunate.”
Since Mrs. Misery gives this advice, that seems logical, people will default to a negative mindset and withdraw their compassion and become an introvert and remaining indoors cut off from the rest of society because things aren’t a utopia. Need I remind you that God Himself cursed this world and allowed it’s dominion to go to the devil. This world isn’t our home and will never be as long as God is in Heaven. Being bored is choice and will, if not corrected, cause extreme boredom.
3. Give yourself a negative identity
So people fear economic loss which causes them to cut back and be very conservative almost scrooge-like. These people are very bored and live a negative existence! Living in a negative bubble will cause you to develop a negative identity. So the question now is “What’s your identity?” Sometimes, due to situations, we give ourselves a negative identity. When things don’t go our way, we seem to develop a negative tint on our lives and see the world with this tint upon our eyes. The negative tint and mindset is they universal language that Mrs. Misery speaks to people of all tongues, cultures and religions alike.
Mrs. Misery loves those that accompany her in fear, stinginess and negativity. Like Mr. Depression, Mrs. Misery thrives on the worst emotions and the worse human experiences in order to establish dominance and superiority over God’s people. The only way to survive Day 1 is to submit yourselves to God and make your emotions, feeling and happiness centered on His will instead of yours. In tomorrow’s devotional we will discuss Day 2 with Mrs. Misery and how to overcome her company. Join us again as we address real life issues with biblical answers on Worship With Willie.