Words Have Power!!! (1st Word)
“Every word of God is pure: he is a shield unto them that put their trust in him.”
We are often told, when we are young, that “Sticks and stones my break my bones but words NEVER hurt me.” If you’re like me, and every other human, words do hurt but worse yet, they remain in the minds of those to whom they have been spoken. Many people have been helped and hurt by the words that we have used. How are your words used? Do you speak in a rough way to others and use tough words? Words DO matter! Join us this week as we share 5 important words.
1st Word LOVE
L – Listen
When we listen, we should not just consume information into our ears but we should process that information. I have found that we should listen in three ways:
- Hear – This process involves receiving the sounds that come into your ears. The dilemma is that the different sexes tend to hear things differently. Hearing honestly is a very important skill to develop. All too often we have our own hearing filter:
- Men tend to hear with the intent of fixing the issue. Men tend to seek to “Get to the point” rather than enduring many details. Too many details tend to make men feel overwhelmed and very irritated.
- Women tend to hear with the intent of becoming emotionally involved in the story. Women tend to seek the intricate details of a story rather than getting to the bottom line or to the point. Too little details will make a woman interrupt to ask questions. Additionally, getting to the point to quickly in a story will leave a woman either suspicious or curious about the details.
The issue hear is that men and women have unique needs when it comes to hearing what the other communicates. Hearing with an open and excepting hear is very important and biblical. We read in Psalms 6:9 “The Lord hath heard my supplication; the Lord will receive my prayer.” God hears without hearing filters and He provides us with the thing that our souls desire. Do you hear your partner’s heart or are you more focused on their words?
- Understand – This process actually involves the interpretation of the sounds which we have received. If I speak millions of words that no-one understands, then is my communication effective? Understanding involves a relationship with the speaker and the listener where one understands the other. Jesus spake about the Pharisees and their inability to grasp this concept.
“And when thou prayest, thou shalt not be as the hypocrites are:for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and in the corners of the streets, that they may be seen of men. Verily I say unto you, They have their reward. But thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy closet, and when thou hast shut thy door, pray to thy Father which is in secret; and thy Father which seeth in secret shall reward thee openly. But when ye pray, use not vain repetitions, as the heathen do:for they think that they shall be heard for their much speaking. Be not ye therefore like unto them:for your Father knoweth what things ye have need of, before ye ask him.”
These men didn’t understand that Jesus had no relationship with them so they spoke many words in an attempt to impress God. A multitude of words will not substitute for simple understanding.
- Acknowledge – This process involves responding to the sender of the audible information giving feedback that you actually are listening. Most women will have very detailed and long conversations with their husbands and it’s almost like speaking to a brick wall, I’m told. when these ladies share the thoughts of their hearts they eagerly await some sort of feedback indicating the listener both understands and is willing to hear more. Acknowledging that you understand the words and that you are engaged in the story is huge.
In a family, when one person tells other family members about an important event and their is no feedback that they are listening this creates a feeling that I’m not important. Listening is a very important feature to love and the family as they love each other.
O – Overlook
This means: “I am willing to see beyond the issue today and look at our future tomorrow.” In a loving family, forgiveness without the ability to overlook is just a ticking time bomb waiting to go off. This will make people say that they forgive but they actually have not let it go and cannot look beyond the past transgression. What are you holding on to? Have you chosen to overlook faults and failures?
V – Value
When you value something or someone, you do all that you can to put it as a priority. You will make sure that this item or person of importance gets the best part of you. You will do whatever you need to do to ensure that this valued token or person continues to see value in you as you do them. Value doesn’t diminish but our attention does. Therefore we should strive to keep this valued item or person in our sight. Does your loved one have value in your sight? What are you doing to show that they are valuable?
E – Encourage
This is the most overlooked portion of the LOVE recipe. We assume that they will encourage themselves but we often demand that they encourage us when we are down. This area is likened to a bank account. The more that you deposit into the account the higher the balance will be along with the interest. One cannot constantly withdraw more that what is deposited into the account because this will deplete the balance. In families we should strive to encourage our loved one more than we seek to be encouraged. Why? Because it takes money to make money. It takes encouragement to make encouragement!
Today we discussed the acronym (LOVE) and how it relates to the family. I challenge everyone to reach out today and display this word to your families and those whom you love. In tomorrow’s devotional, we will discuss another word as it relates to our relationship with God. Join us again as we address real life issues with biblical answers on Worship With Willie.