How To Destroy A Family in 5 Days! (Day 1)

How To Destroy A Family in 5 Days! (Day 1)

Genesis 3:1-23

Ever since the creation of mankind, the adversary has planned to destroy it and the family. However, I think that the adversary receives too much credit for happenings that weren’t under his power. We do that all by ourselves. 

This week we will see how a family can be destroyed in 5 days time. Join us as we learn how to infiltrate the familial defensive lines and destroy the family in 5 days.

Day Number 1

As  you get out of bed, you focus on the mess that was left undone the night before during your children’s playtime. As you go to the kitchen to get coffee, you observe that your coffee pot that was supposed to auto start has been unplugged and replaced by a charging cell phone. As your family begins to wake up, you get a phone call from work indicating that you are over an hour late for work. Oh, your kids didn’t roll the time forward when you asked them to during the family movie last night. You yell at your spouse because they know better and they are the face of your aggression. 

All of these situations are from an obviously extreme event in this family but they are not too far from real life events. 

Destructive Events on Day 1

  1. Remind others of all the nasty stuff from the past that you can recall. Fill in your memory holes with made up stories.
    • Remind others of all the nasty stuff from the past that you can recall
      • Too often because people have hurt us, we want to “remind” them that they have hurt us in some wain an attempt to prevent it from happening again and again but this creates fodder for resentment. “Too many constant reminders will make a person remember “their feelings are important too.”
    • Fill in your memory holes with made up stories
      • If not careful we will, fill the gaps of time with things that either didn’t happen or things that we assume happened. I remember once when my son didn’t clean his room, as he was instructed. When I asked him why, he said “I thought that you said that I didn’t have to clean my room” when I didn’t say that. Because he didn’t remember what I said, he filled in his own mind with what he thought I said. How often do we do that in our families? 
  2. Keep a sharp eye out. Be critical of every little difference. Judge the differences as bad, wrong or “less than”. They need to be fixed.
    • Keep a sharp eye out
      • I’m guilty of this! Oh me! As fathers, we are so critical to look for the bad in the lives of our children. We want our children to be “perfect” that we make them collapse under the pressure of living in our shadow. 
    • Be critical of every little difference
      • If our children or family members are different than us, we sometimes get angry that they don’t mold themselves into our image. They have their own lives and personalities. Allow them to be who God made them to be. 
    • Judge the differences as bad, wrong or “less than”
      • Sometimes we see a difference as if they are wrong and “Need to be fixed”. I don’t like cottage cheese but my family does and I think that they are gross. However, I shouldn’t hold this against them because they are different.
  3. Assume the worst of other people’s intentions. Assume they are out to get you. Assume they are driven by greed, selfishness or jealousy.
    • Assume the worst of other people’s intentions
      • I remember once I assumed that my kids broke a special item that I gave to them because it was placed in an isolated area. I thought that they broke it and was afraid to tell me about it. So I asked where the item was and my son said “We put it in here so that it wouldn’t be messed up because it is special to you.”. I felt like a heal!
    • Assume they are out to get you
      • We can be so hard on our family members that they fear us, in a bad way. So the one does make a mistake they assume that there is no mercy for them. 
    • Assume they are driven by greed, selfishness or jealousy
      • This sometimes happens in their hearts and minds of husbands and wives. They assume that the other has ulterior motives for their actions when there is little to no evidence to support it. 

On Day 1, we see that bringing up the past constantly, being overly critical and making unfounded assumptions sets the stage for a family self destruction. What about your family? How does your family measure up? One day is complete but we have four days to go! Will you family make it four more days? In tomorrow’s devotional we will talk about the destructive behavior on Day 2. Join us again as we address real life issues with biblical answers on Worship With Willie. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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