Who Will Go? (Part 4)
“ALSO I HEARD THE VOICE OF THE LORD, SAYING, WHOM SHALL I SEND, AND WHO WILL GO FOR US? THEN SAID I, HERE AM I; SEND ME.”
Who will go? Where will they go? How will they get there? These are some questions people ask when it comes to missions. Let me answer these questions in a visual way:
Psalms 56:3 “What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee”
All too often we let circumstances overwhelm us and extinguish our faith in God. We usually do this in three ways:
Focus On The Circumstance, Rather Than God Who Gave It
- Fail To See The Hidden Blessing, While Focusing On The Visible Inconvenience
a lot of times we will loot at a situation that God has either allowed or sent as an inconvenience. Webster’s dictionary defines this word as: not suiting one’s needs or purposes. This is contrary to the way a Christian is supposed to think. We see that in John 3:30 “He must increase, but I must decrease.”, this reminds us that we must decrease our will in order for God to increase.
Here is a Christian Complaint Cycle Model. See if you fit into this model:
A. Event Happens – lets say that this event is someone at church that said something that hurt your feelings.
B. Your Immediate Thought – Most people will be shocked, offended or brush it off.
C. Your Meditated Thought – For the people that are shocked or offended, they will begin to do one of the two following actions:
- Think “How could they do ________?” This is being Antagonistic
Basically, this person responds, outwardly or inwardly in a rude manner. They will meditate on this offense and, if not resolved, will turn into bitterness.
- Think “Do they have some sort of hidden agenda? What were they really trying to say?” “This is being Analytical.
This results in people trying to “figure out” what the other person’s meaning for saying the hurtful statement was about. “If I can figure out the reason why they said it, it will make me feel better.”
D. Your Communicated Thought – Because of the event and your thought process, of the perceived event, you may respond in one of three ways:
- Frustration – You will voice how you feel about the perceived in justice.
(This has the potential to make the other person lash back at you in the same manner or worse manner than you initially did.)
- Fury – You will voice your opinion about the perceived injustice. This differs from frustration because you seek to have your point of view heard no matter what. Even if this means resorting to yelling, inflammatory accusations, name calling and even verbal or physical violence.
(This has the potential to turn into an all out fight. This will cause one party to become a bully while the other will become a victim. The bully will see themselves as being treated unfairly while the victim will see themselves as never being able to do anything right. This will cause one party to leave the other, if no immediate resolution takes place.)
E. What Was Said vs What You Thought That You Heard – When the person on the other side of our verbal attack responds, we actually hear something different than the words that exited their mouths.
For instance: Wife says “The spending on _________ needs to stop”. What she means is “Honey, our budget is tight and we can’t afford _______, would you please stop.” Husband hears “You idiot, you’re so immature! You’re spending our hard earned money on_______. I can’t believe that you’re so selfish”. So husband responds back with “What do you mean I spend to much money on ___________. What about you’re ________.”
At this point a fight has started. To avoid this, ask questions to make sure that you understand what they are saying instead of assuming that you know what it is the other person means. In Proverbs 18:13 “He that answereth a matter before he heareth it, it is folly and shame unto him.” Wait to hear the end of the matter before you answer.
F. You Find Yourself Apologizing For The Same Things Over & Over Again – You will be a repeat offender of the same thing. If a man yells at his wife all the time and apologizes, the apology will not take any importance. It will just be words that have no significance. Others will see sincerity but the victim will hear, “I’m sorry but not sorry enough to change”.
G. Deliberate Change In Behavior, Thinking & Processing – This involves both people changing. The bully must deal with the triggers that aggravate them and the way that they react to these triggers. The person that has been on the opposite side must learn to both avoid these triggers but also stand up for themselves in a productive way. This lets the aggressor know that this behavior is unacceptable.
How does all of this fit into missions and the mission field? Those that work for the Lord and in His service must deal with their own conflict before they can manage another’s conflict. Once we understand how to resolve personal issues and trust Jesus Christ by faith to help us through, we can effectively focus less on fixing our own issues and sharing the gospel to a lost and dying world. Each Christian is responsible for “Working out your own salvation” Phillipians 2:12. In tomorrow’s devotional we will cover the 3rd circumstance that overwhelms our faith. Join us again as we address real life issues with biblical answers on Worship With Willie.