The 5 Love Languages (Overview)
Last week we discovered the types of love and their meanings but this week I want to apply these types of love via application. The series The 5 Love Languages will explain a great deal about how we give love and our need to receive it. Join us as we share Dr. Gary Chapman’s series The 5 Love Languages.
Have you ever been in a relationship and sought nothing but a hug from your partner but all they want to do is talk to you about their feelings or yours? Have you ever been in a relationship where the person just wanted you to do things for them but all you want is to be told how much you’re appreciated? Or have you ever wanted a nice gift from the one you love but their gift to you is nothing but a relaxing time at the spa or a game?
I’m sure that this may come across as frustrating or even non-caring to a point. However, I believe that they are giving you vital clues on their specific language and need for love. Dr. Chapman explains these needs for love in metaphorical languages. He identifies 5 specific love needs that could arise in relationships.
DISCLAIMER: I am compare and contrast the languages and their meanings in light of the love theme. It is not my intention to correct, alter or thereby change any of Dr. Chapman’s content. I am only using his research to draw inferences and differences from human behavior in a parallel to that of fallen man. Any and all comments aren’t the expressed opinion of Dr. Chapman.
- The Love Languages Show That We All Need Love
Dr. Chapman shows that all people respond to expressed love differently and all people have a need for love. Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs shows that love and the feeling of belonging is very important.
The bible says “Herein is love, not that we loved God, but that he loved us, and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins” I John 4:10 KJV. We didn’t even know what love was or who God was but He loved us. We needed His love otherwise we would not have known or cared to know Jesus Christ.
2. The Love Languages Show That We All Need Specialized Love
We all need a specialized type of love to make us feel complete. If someone is not on the same sheet of music as you; the music together will not make any sense. The bible asks in Amos 3:3 “Can two walk together except they be agreed?” obviously the answer is no. All to often people will like and then love things about the other person and not even consider the loves in someone else’s life. For example, if a man loves sports and his wife hates sports, then there is an enormous potential for conflict. However, when a woman loves music and her mate loves the same type of music then it makes the relationship seem like an act of worship and very pleasurable. All too often people type to make themselves like what another person likes in order to achieve this state of worship. However, it usually fails or will not be as fulfilling so they quickly loose interest. This type of behavior is what most Americans adopt because they seek the approval of others instead of maintaining their own self-awareness. We will talk more about that in a later lesson.
Jesus never worked with the people that He encountered the same way. Why? Because everyone is unique and requires different needs in the area of love. Why did Jesus allow certain people to die before He helped them but others were never even sick? We don’t know but we do know that we all require special love personally.
3. The Love Languages Show That We All Need Someone to Love Us In Our Special Love
When a man an woman marry, they unknowing expect the other to magically read their minds when they have unvocalized needs. They expect this person to deliver it in a way that they need. This sometimes presents a problem:
- what if the partner cannot function in that love language
- what if the partner refuses to develop this love language
- where will this leave the relationship
- how is this issue resolved
What if Jesus had never came down and died for the sins of humanity because He had never done that before or because it was going to be uncomfortable? Where would that leave humanity? We would all be in need of love and empty and lost. We would never truly have an opportunity to connect with Him.
How about you? Are you missing an area of love in your life? Are you missing a strong worshipful like connection to another person because of your inability to connect? Do you have a strong relationship to Jesus Christ? We will fail at having a strong relationship with Jesus Christ if we fear truly loving another and trusting. Where are you? In tomorrow’s devotional we will begin to break down the 5 different languages and apply them in both physical and spiritual applications to better help you to reach a closer relationship with Christ as you love others through Him. Join us again as we address real life issues with biblical answers on Worship With Willie.